The Be Better message had a very humble beginning and was born out of despair, desire, determination, dedication and distain for wrong-doing. It was a man's plea for grace and empowerment to rise above his faults and conquer the battles within himself. He was a warrior, a man of a pure heart. He is a hero. He was a human being. He is the son of parents who raised him to have courage and integrity. To stand up for truth and the values within himself. He is the husband of a woman whom was his best friend. They lived together, laughed until it hurt, cried until it didn't, and never gave up on each other. His four children still believe their daddy sets the sun out every morning and sits among the stars at night. Larger than life! LIFE...a gift taken far too early.
Andrew Sterling Ashcraft - July 10, 2013 |
Andrew Sterling Ashcraft - Yarnell Hill, June 30, 2013 |
On June 30, 2013, more was taken from 19 families than we could have ever imagined. The horror of the shedding of tears, the waling of heartache, and the upending of lives as we knew them will forever be seared into our souls. We would never hold our loved ones again or see them walk through our front door. Andrew's smile would never again be seen in this life. Mothers and fathers burying their sons, wives going to bed alone, accompanied only by the chill of the unruffled covers on his side of the bed. Children developing relationships only with who their dad once was and visiting him at a cemetery rather than receiving butterfly kisses and wrestling on the floor after family dinner.
The immense loss of that day also included the physical remnants of the men we sent off to fight that blaze. So little was recovered that we found treasure in any scrap piece of material that we could find in the area. We would never see their bodies, we would never touch their lifeless hands, we would never kiss their cheeks or whisper in their ears that we'll see them on the other side. We were left without closure, we were left without answers, we were left to battle denial while completely broken hearted.
Then...a miracle! A small, silicone band...once white, now charred, but intact. How could it be? The flames of that fatal fire caused rocks to crumble and medal to melt. How then could this silicone band come back to the family of our heroic firefighter? Everyone may have their reason, be it coincidence or otherwise, but I call it a small miracle and tender mercy. Perhaps God understood that his wife would need to hold it on the nights where she faced the crossroad of "Be Bitter or Be Better". Perhaps He knew that his children would be blessed to see that their Daddy always kept his promises and the promise he made them to wear the band until the day he died was no exception. Perhaps his mother and father needed to have a message that they could spread to the world in an effort of continuing their life with their precious son as a continual part of it. Or perhaps the reason was to have a forum like this to talk about the beauty of the human heart, to allow the freedom to forgive ourselves and shed the weight of past mistakes, becoming better each day. Whatever the reason, it has led us to this point...
We have been overwhelmed by the goodness of people from all over the world. The cards, condolences, donations, hugs, prayers, love, and encouragement we have received have been inspiring, moving, and have left us with a desire to pay it forward. We wish to give back, in some small way, to those who have selflessly, graciously, and heroically blessed our family over the past two years. The fact that I have the strength to put my thoughts in writing now is born of the many shoulders who have helped carry my burdens and the prayers who have buoyed up my sorrow. I am better today than I was yesterday...thanks to all of you. It is these individuals, families, and organizations who offered their assistance in a time that we were so desperately in need, that truly understand Andrew's message to Be Better. They not only understand it but live it. Such beautiful irony can be found in Andrew losing his life to save the lives of strangers; and in turn, strangers have taken it upon themselves to save the lives of his family.
BE BETTER BRIGADE...
Andrew's four children, Ryder Sterling Ashcraft (7), Shiloh Ashcraft (6), Tate Andrew Ashcraft (4) and Choice Crockett Ashcraft (3), and I, their mother and Andrew's widow, have taken off on a mission to highlight these every day heroes. We are traveling by bus to all 50 states and stopping by at least one incredible donor in each state who helped to bless our lives over the past two years. We want to hug them, learn from them, and celebrate the goodness of their hearts. We want to present them with a replica of Andrew's Be Better Band and thank them for living this principle in their lives. This blog will be a forum to share their stories and recognize them for being so thoughtful.
Please take a moment to read of these individuals whom we are recognizing, and in turn think of people in your life that have lifted your spirit today. Have you expressed your gratitude to them? Have you thanked them for encouraging you to Be Better? The time is now. Don't let the opportunity go by without letting those you love know how incredible they are. Together, by performing acts of kindness, we can SPREAD THE BETTER!
Juliann! Beautifully written, I cried through it all. You are such a courageous and loyal person God will bless you in this journey. Andrew sure married well! Can't wait to see you when you get back! Love you my friend!
ReplyDeleteThis is so incredible!! The life experiences, lessons and love learned from this amazing journey will be such a blessing for you and your family, and for all of us who get to follow your journey!! Cheers!!
ReplyDeleteJuliann your words are beautiful! Thank you for sharing them with so many! We hope to see you on your journey. Love and hugs to you and your sweet kiddos as you embark on this fabulous journey! Love, Dan, Melissa, Jordan, Ashley & Allison Bates
ReplyDeleteBeautifully written and of course I cried and feelings from the past brought back. But a renewal of gratitude and love for others. Thank you for doing this and sharing with us. Love Collette
ReplyDeleteOur church was so blessed to meet Juliann, Ryder, Shiloh, Tate, and Choice Ashcraft Sunday. Their loved one ,Andrew, would be so proud of how they are moving forward. Wish we could attach pictures here....our small church has supported many in need after natural disaster hits but getting a surprise visit from a recipient is a first. May God watch over Juliann and family as they finish up their Be Better Tour..You've touched our hearts forever.
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ReplyDeleteYou and your kids are always in my thoughts since learning of your loss. My bf is a firefighter and used to be a prescott hotshot many years ago so this tragedy hit me pretty hard. My bf now does stucture fire but does wildland in the summer because he loves it. My heart sinks every time he goes out thinking I might never see him again. Your stories and seeing how strong you have been is so humbling. I'm so blessed and wish you and your beautiful children all the best in the world....noone deserves it more!
ReplyDeleteYou and your kids are always in my thoughts since learning of your loss. My bf is a firefighter and used to be a prescott hotshot many years ago so this tragedy hit me pretty hard. My bf now does stucture fire but does wildland in the summer because he loves it. My heart sinks every time he goes out thinking I might never see him again. Your stories and seeing how strong you have been is so humbling. I'm so blessed and wish you and your beautiful children all the best in the world....noone deserves it more!
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ReplyDeleteWhat a beautifully written and loving tribute. I am so sorry I missed you when you were in Delaware. I continue to pray for you and the other families whose families were changed forever that day.
Chris
Can we still order this band? Mine just broke 😢
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